Kathy Sierra

Good breathing will help but it's not the key. The best starting point for nervous public speakers is: http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/10/4/presentation-skills-considered-h… Focus on their needs not your technique. Everything else is artifice.

Kathy Sierra suggests that the fact that she was listened to by many people was what triggered the hatred for her: http://seriouspony.com/trouble-at-the-koolaid-point/ "I now believe the most dangerous time for a woman with online visibility is the point at which others are seen to be listening, “following”, “liking”, “favoriting”, retweeting. In other words, the point at which her readers have (in the troll’s mind) “drunk the Koolaid”. Apparently, that just can’t be allowed." Read the whole thing, it's heartbreaking and eyeopening. It also involves some of the same people that attacked the author of the current post. So whatever these two woman did to "incite" this harassment was shared by at least two kinda-succesful woman in tech.

What's the point of railing against "PC culture", though? There's no leadership; it's not centralized. From what I can see, "PC culture" and related/contrary forces are an emergent consequence of the Internet a) giving marginalized groups a loud collective voice, b) granting individuals the power of global publication, c) enabling echo chambers that reinforce and concentrate disparate opinions, etc. It's neither good nor bad; it just is, and we must collectively learn to navigate these new waters. Parts will suck, parts will leave us better off as a society. I think it's an inevitable consequence of our exponentially increased global connectivity. You can't really stop it. Personally, I've found that the best way to deal with difficult topics is to just not discuss them online. Those kinds of conversations don't really work when you can't have interruptions or interludes, can't react to your companions' body language, can't experience genuine empathy and pain -- can't even sense that there's a living, breathing creature on the other end of the line. On the internet, everything is a manifesto. In the real world, ideas are ephemeral and flexible. "If you KNOW someone is wrong, why not debate them?" To answer your question, you can read Kathy Sierra's article[1] on her interaction with gamergate. Basically, it's because there's no right answer and the questions never ever end. It's railing against a tidal wave of identical ideas, and the only apparent solution is to join an…

Great, so instead of spending willpower on something useful, you spend it on avoiding temptations of Candy Crush. http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat The fact that people are playing it regardless of whether they are paying or not helps king.com make profit to demolish games like Banner Saga (note: this is a game I backed). You might wonder how - but it's rather simple. Even if you pay zilch to play and you get to level 153, your friend brother, mom, sister, father or acquaintance will see this and try it out, and perhaps get hooked (if it's someone that would pay money to 'compete' in levels with you, even better). It's a numbers game. Games like that depend on few gamers that spend in the thousands (aka 'whales'), and to get to them they need to wade through a sea of people that spend 0$ but are connected to the so called 'whales' . So yes, thanks again for helping King.com ruin The Banner Saga for me...

Here's my list: https://www.manager-tools.com/podcasts podcast about management https://randsinrepose.com/welcome-to-rands-leadership-slack/ great engineering leadership slack. you can ask questions and learn all kinds of stuff https://ctolunches.com/ groups of engineering leaders meet for lunch, also a great email list https://bookshop.org/p/books/high-output-management-andrew-s-grove/673… classing on management https://itrevolution.com/product/the-phoenix-project/ classic on software throughput, plus a fun read https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_to_Great great business book on what makes a longlasting business http://seriouspony.com/badass-users-the-book always be thinking of how to make your users great. short https://www.oreilly.com/library/view/mythical-man-month-the/0201835959… lessons from the 1960s and 1970s about software development and are still relevant today

Certainly a valid model. I can't find it now, but there even was a study on how you would eat unhealthy after demanding tasks, so additionally cognitive load drains from the same pool, too. edit: http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat (certainly that was a hn-post)

Also relevant: http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat

(Basing my comment on Kathy Sierra's post : Your app makes me fat[1].) The idea is that the user is not on your site to get your ideas about web design but to get specific information. If that info is hard to find, they'll get out and try the next site. Concentrate on making your content memorable rather than your UI. [1] http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat

She eventually returned to blogging over at http://seriouspony.com/blog/, unfortunately she also stopped again - and serious pony has since been run of Twitter by trolls. I shall cry very dry tears once Weev dies.

weev... more innocuous? Are you fucking serious? http://seriouspony.com/trouble-at-the-koolaid-point/

I suggest you read this :) http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat

"To my readers from long ago: I've missed you. More than you know." -- http://seriouspony.com/about/ ... She's back. I'm giddy as a schoolgirl.

Willpower is a muscle, which uses the same resource as brain tasks (programming, arguing)[1] - let's call it "cognitive energy". 1) don't waste cognitive energy on silly tasks (games, arguing in comment threads, etc.) 2) practice exercising willpower - it's a muscle, you can train it to be better. Start by forcing yourself to complete a routine every morning (the trick with habit forming is to not give up after you miss a day.) examples of habits to form below. 3) look into mindfullness meditation[2] - this can help you identify distracting thoughts as they arrive and practice ignoring them. Meditating is a good habit to form as practice, and it will also help you get better at habits. You could also exercise on a schedule (and record when you do, including how heavy you lifted/how fast you were running). Eventually, with a stronger willpower-muscle, you'll be able to choose the fruit salad over the cake, even when you've just spent your 7.5 hours a day coding. I've not found pomodoro to work for me as an easily-distracted person, it's better when you're prioritising work tasks (e.g. 25 code vs 5 email) and even then, 25 mins is too short for good programming "flow". This is a hard problem, everyone has trouble with it. Good luck! [1] http://seriouspony.com/blog/2013/7/24/your-app-makes-me-fat (HN discussion: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6124462 ) [2] http://www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-practical-guide-finding-frantic/dp… (US edition:…