Human Parts

Glad it was helpful! I also recommend this related article by a psychologist that explains: "When a person fails to begin a project that they care about, it’s typically due to either a) anxiety about their attempts not being “good enough” or b) confusion about what the first steps of the task are. Not laziness."[1] [1] Laziness doesn't exist: https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01

I am 30 w after 2 miscarriages and have felt exactly the same. The trauma I experienced when taking my kid to the ER for something totally unrelated was completely surprising. I write to help me process my feelings about the loss and the (hopeful) rainbow after the loss. It’s really surreal to be happy and excited after such a devastating set of losses. https://psiloveyou.xyz/walking-the-tightrope-between-miscarriage-and-p… https://medium.com/messy-mind/emergency-room-flashbacks-871ee88d02a https://humanparts.medium.com/when-are-you-due-450397a996d7

I've said it before, and I feel need to say it again. If you don't have time to read the whole thing please skip to the summary at the end. There is anxiety, procrastination and task avoidance that everybody faces. Everybody has some things they don't like to or want to do. However, what some people facing these issues often don't realize is that if it's happening (almost) everywhere, it could be something else. Are you struggling with a solid 50% of your tasks? Maybe even 100%? That's not normal, I'm sorry to say (I'm in this boat myself for what it's worth). Don't feel bad, it's very likely not your fault. Ask yourself - is my life significantly impaired by such procrastination issues? Are you missing important things because of your "tardiness"? (I have missed a funeral... simply because I forgot. Of course I didn't want to miss it.) Perhaps lost a job, or strained friendships/marriages because of your forgetfulness? Do you struggle with long-term plans and their implementation? Perhaps have 1000s of unread emails and now no longer care, even though deep down you would have loved a zero-inbox? Do you have more unfulfilled wishes, ambitious desires and crazy fantasies but struggle to live in the confines of reality? Justifying your inability to do amazing things because "you unfortunately live in the real world" and "neither does Bob"? Well, it might be ADHD. Or autism. Or (C)PTSD. Or brain injury/trauma. Perhaps depression. Maybe generalized anxiety disorder, or…

It's great to see a lot of comments with an awareness that many in today's society aren't verifying (or able to verify?) the science they come across. Yet I'm not seeing much talk yet of theories and frameworks that take this reality as a starting point. That takes this widespread scientific non-competence as a starting point to then chart a path forward to a competent society. In other words, what are some strategies to support and guide people into becoming competent? How do we prevent this non-competence from showing up in the next generations? As someone who has a shoddy base when it comes to science, I am still often missing the societal acknowledgement that 1.) it is hard to find patient, compassionate teachers and suitable material if you didn't do well early on (e.g. my sister did, I didn't), and 2.) that acknowledge the reality of both a.) having to untangle existing miseducation (shoddy, neglected base), while b.) giving enough time and space for the right scientific theories to fall into place (i.e. for competence or 'mastery' to start occurring). In other words: many of you here agree that people aren't able to derive or verify their own scientific explorations, yet what are the best learning frameworks for these adults to re-base their scientific/critical thinking skills? As I said before, I currently have quite a shoddy base (to my great sorrow), how and where do i start remedying this? How do I rebuild my base, starting from where I am at now? Who has done…

To add to that beautiful quote: https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01

Better than meyers-briggs - How the ‘Magic: The Gathering’ Color Wheel Explains Humanity: https://humanparts.medium.com/the-mtg-color-wheel-c9700a7cf36d

There's a growing group of psychologists who say laziness is a myth. It doesn't exist. When someone is being what we would call lazy, there is almost always something else going on. https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01