The Good Men Project

If anyone is interested in a place where issues of particular importance to men are being discussed by a variety of writers (and not just men), I recommend checking out The Good Men Project.[1] I've found a good number of the articles there to be timely and thought-provoking, and the general spirit is one of cooperation rather than the antagonism that seemed to be underlying the conference detailed in the article. Some of the topics frequently written about include the changing perceptions of masculinity, child rearing, friendships, dating, sex, work, community, race, self-worth and fulfillment. That's painting in very broad strokes, but with such a diverse collection of articles (and a narrower yet similar variance in quality) it's hard to give a more specific description without linking to individual articles, which I will not do since I am at work. [1]http://goodmenproject.com

It’s sometimes difficult to find the links through Google on short notice but I found one random site that discusses this. Of course the site is pro fathers but they do link to primary sources to verify the claims in the article. There are plenty of other places this is discussed, and I’m not associated with and haven’t ever before read the following website. It just happened to easily show up in my search. https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-good-life-these-chores…

For students in marketing majors, writing an essay can be a challenge but with https://goodmenproject.com/learning/best-services-to-hire-an-essay-wri… article it's easy. They will need to be sure to choose a topic that has enough information and is interesting. In addition, the text needs to be organized properly and contain reliable evidence.

Well - the usage of "Fuck" in the title of this post is itself extremely sexist. See [1] and [2] and [3] [1] https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/what-filthy-words-are-most… [2] https://kathmandupost.com/art-culture/2020/06/23/the-underlying-sexism… [3] http://www.mountholyokenews.com/oped/2020/3/6/common-swear-words-are-r… I hope someone here sees the irony.

> We keep repeating the pattern of scaling some technical innovation up to all of society, and then years later discovering that it was really harmful. You missed the problematic last step. We take technical innovations to a societal scale, discover a really harmful effect, and then stubbornly do the square root of bugger-all about it. It's expected that harms, especially through complex side-effects take time to emerge. We can't see the future, nor can we exhaustively test everything in advance. The problem comes with the response. A certain amount of market inertia is to be expected. Recalling and replacing products is expensive. But what is absolutely inexcusable, and ripe for immediate radical global action to address [1], is the disgraceful, blatantly criminal behaviour of large corporations who move to suppress science, discredit researchers, silence critics and bury bad news. Many problems concerning at-scale blow-back turn out to have been known about decades in advance of their impact. [1] https://goodmenproject.com/the-good-life/the-corporate-death-penalty/ EDIT: A better link on the idea of the "corporate death penalty" (actually quite a good read in itself) [2] [2] https://www.commondreams.org/views/2019/01/08/its-time-bring-back-corp…

I'm female and I have my toe in that industry. I am not in the skin trade, but I am in a position where I have a bit of exposure to it. 1) Yes, most porn focuses on the male's pleasure, which is a common complaint. That's why James Deen makes money: http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2011/11/17/porn_that_women_like_w… 2) Yes. Some women are into that. I feel like you are unnecessarily close-minded about the idea that women might like a range of experiences. I also agree with other commenters on their ideas that naming porn conventions do not actually indicate suffering, pain, and degradation. 3) True. Porn is not meant as educational material; be safe. 4) It does create unrealistic expectations, but almost nobody expects porn to be like real life. Female porn stars do get to choose what kind of sex they have. I hate victim blame just as much as the next woman, but saying that porn stars can choose what to do is not victim blame. Porn stars live in a world where they get paid for what they decide to do. The skin industry does have some people who are not there by choice but necessity...but the vast majority are there because they chose to follow that route. Though I think concern for the performers is admirable, most performers are ok with where they are. It's actually a little bit ridiculous that men get up in arms about women when they choose to go into the industry; it's a mostly free choice. Men act like the performers can't…

But tomorrow is my 'dad day' ! papadag : https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dutch-dads-and-their-papad…

Experiments that ask people to fill out surveys as themselves, or as they imagine a liberal would, or as they imagine a conservative would, in equal proportion. Jonathan Haidt did one of these experiments with about 2000 participants. It's social science so it should come with all the usual disclaimers, but the results can be found here and have apparently been replicated since (though I'm having trouble rapidly re-locating a study I found that replicated it, for some reason I can't find the right keywords to surface it). You can find a writeup here: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/sympathy-for-the-devil-wcz…

Nobody in this conversation has done so, because nobody in this conversation is attempting to present a complete explanation of the world. Try a very quick search before saying "nobody wants to x". https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/masculinity-healthy-vs-toxic-…

>Even worst case predictions for climate change don't imply the human race will be threatened. I mean some obviously do https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/world-climate-change-confe… here is someone who denies that it is an existential threat but provides a lot of nice links to people saying it is https://www.climatechangenews.com/2019/06/04/i-denier-human-extinction…

> A man will have a very unsuccessful romantic life if he never makes any advances. #NotAllMen But seriously. I'd like to talk more about this in a different setting. This sentiment rang true for me before I got out of high school. After that, it mattered much less. > Society fails men on the social/physical/emotional intimacy front. We failed ourselves. This article rang all too true. https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-the-lack-of-gentl…

Here's in interesting ted talk on an international aid issue that not talked about alot: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-hidden-reason-for-pove…

Here is a similar story about service dogs trained specifically for people with PTSD. They will do things like ensure no one crowds up too close behind their human, as well as offering the emotional interaction. http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/service-dog-helps-iraq-combat… Frikkin' awesome.

"Frankly, I had enjoyed the war." The thesis behind the book, "War" [0] by Sebastian Junger. Read this interview, "Missing the Closeness of Brotherhood" to understand why ~ http://goodmenproject.com/arts/sebastian-junger-korengal-interview-js/ [0] http://www.amazon.com/WAR-Sebastian-Junger/dp/B005K5DN5O/ref=tmm_hrd_t…

Link is exactly what it says it is: http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/explaining-white-privilege-to-…

Because white and male are the default assumed race and gender[1]. [1]: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-is-white-male-the-defau…

"But I’m tired of seeing men and women buy into the lie that male sexuality is inherently violent and sadistic. My experience as sex worker has taught me the opposite." A prostitute talks of her experience. - http://goodmenproject.com/2010/11/22/the-professional/

There is this: Looking back, I realize I knew nothing about boys and pornography. I’d never seen online porn and assumed that Alex was viewing still pictures similar to print magazines. Which is them putting their hands up and saying we made a mistake. So they were naive when it came to internet pornography, not unusual when it comes to baby boomers/older gen-xers. The last thing I would accuse them of is lack of caring. Have you read the comment from the father? http://goodmenproject.com/2010/06/02/out-of-sync/comment-page-1/#comme…

Also certainly not an expert here, but here is a good definition I found: > Toxic masculinity is a narrow and repressive description of manhood, designating manhood as defined by violence, sex, status and aggression. It’s the cultural ideal of manliness, where strength is everything while emotions are a weakness; where sex and brutality are yardsticks by which men are measured, while supposedly “feminine” traits—which can range from emotional vulnerability to simply not being hypersexual—are the means by which your status as “man” can be taken away. It seems to be a catch all term for the problematic parts of the way men are idealized by society. IE stuff like how men can be expected to hide away their emotions or be perceived as weak. Stuff like that shows up in suicide statistics. Part of the problem with understanding the concept, IMO, is that ideological forces have managed to sway part of the public (or at least certain echo chambers) into believing that the people talking about it really mean "all men are bad" or "traditional masculinity is bad." I think there's something real here that needs to be addressed though. Edit: Case and point... somebody further down in this thread accused the term "toxic masculinity" of being designed by "academic Marxist feminists" who are waging culture wars in order to hyper-feminize small boys. [1] https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-difference-between-tox…

>The way psychological issues are linked to masculinity is disingenuous as the deeper cause of the issues isn't masculinity but the inability to self-actualize in whatever environment the man is in The AMA guidelines don't link psychological issues to masculinity, nor are they considering masculinity to be a cause of any issues in and of itself. >So talking about masculinity and "subverting" it is pointless because as a man at the end of the day you are still left without opportunities or companionship because of how other people are evaluating you. Nowhere in the AMA guidelines is "subverting" masculinity discussed or considered, either. You're basing your opinions on a false assumption of what masculinity is assumed to be, and reading an agenda into the AMA guidelines that isn't there. >can you really show it has some attachment to the men's rights movement? It's literally mentioned in the Wikipedia article on the term[0], and a quick Google search brings up a few more references[1..3] although I'm guessing your use of the term "really" in italics is meant to leave wiggle room to deny whatever sources I present as being authoritative enough. So take the fact that, if you research the origin of both the term and the concept, you find links to the mens' rights movement and male culture, and no such sources claiming that the term was invented by feminists, as you…

But by then, he had won four major marathons and the Olympic gold medal, and what he lacked in raw physical potential he made up for with … something. It seems like the next frontier in distance running optimization is the mind. Given the analysis on the runners' physiology, the only thing that really separated them was mentality. This seems obvious, given the nature of distance running, but the article never mentions sports psychology or mental exercises the runners do to improve performance. That's pretty interesting, given that so many elite athletes have put such an emphasis on the mental part of their game: I knew I was going to wrestle in the finals of the Olympics against a Russian and I knew he had been training specifically to beat me, but then I knew the guy was on steroids, That would help me. Whereas some might think ‘oh he’s cheating, for me you didn’t pay the price. You’re not as committed as I am. It’ll tear him apart. He may be strong, but all I have to do during that 9 minutes of wrestling is loosen one single wire in his brain, make him do something that isn’t perfect, and he’ll fall apart. Besides the health effects, what you lose when you use steroids is mental toughness. The key to victory is that the strongest mind wins. You can get physical strength with steroids, but you lose the mental toughness (you would have gained) from brutal hard work. Steroids hurt mental toughness by serving as a crutch. - Dan Gable[0] Champions aren’t made in gyms.…

I hope I would have kicked the woman in the head or wrestled her to the ground. As a male, I suspect I wouldn't have. I could have just called the police, but that doesn't really help in an immediate situation of one person trying to stab someone. So this situation calls for either: 1) Subduing the attacker by pinning them. 2) Doing enough damage to the attacker that they can't move. If they are on top of the victim, they maybe are in a good position for me to run up and corner-kick their head and end things with a quick concussion. I can't tell from the prose. Otherwise, it would be better to just restrain her and pin her to the ground. So I'm either a man pinning screaming woman to the ground in a public place or a man who is viscously beating a woman in public. No thanks, "Real Men" don't hit girls. http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/brand-what-do-you-do-when-a… Especially not in public where "defend the woman being attacked" is a fantasy for a whole bunch of people.

One thing that I've learned as I've become familiar with the concept of privilege is that if you think something is getting swept under the rug, it's usually just that you haven't found the huge pile of analysis and discussion of it. "People are all privileged in different ways and in different circumstances" is pretty closely tied to the concept of intersectionality. And yes, there are specific situations where generally unprivileged groups have privilege over generally privileged groups. But there are two main reasons nobody wants to focus on those situations: 1. Those situations are typically so minor and so rare that addressing them just isn't a priority, 2. The same prejudice that causes those situations is generally far more problematic in the opposite direction. You might want to read this, if you haven't: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/what-about-the-men-chapter-… . It's aimed at a male audience that is basically unfamiliar with privilege, so anyone who's well read on the subject is likely to cringe at some of their oversimplifications. What's interesting about it is that it uses the point that men are hurt by sexism as a call for more men to get involved with feminism.

It seems natural that very little attention is being placed on mans issues. I think just selectively pointing out gender issues will not prove that the specific gender has it worse. I think instead of always assuming that woman has it worse we should also look at mens issues along with womans issues. This is difficult because humans have a tendency of protecting woman and not worrying much about men. Here is a video about this http://youtu.be/TBzx-SMSwGE and a paper (which I haven't got a chance to read completely) http://adamjones.freeservers.com/globe.htm I can't find a good list of mans issues but here is a OK list. http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/the-top-10-issues-of-mens-righ… This list does not contain issues like the rape of man by woman and other man, incarceration issues, man having a much higher death rate in the work place (more man at dangerous jobs), higher suicide rate of man, less men graduating college then woman, crazy rape laws like drink + sex = rape of woman but not man, tricky asking for consent = coercion = rape (at some colleges), draft only applies to man, millions of mostly male veterans committing suicide, male sexual mutilation & forced circumcision, domestic violence against man, legal paternal surrender/financial abortion, man are more likely to be assaulted and mugged then woman (even criminals tend to protect woman, see what happens to rapist in prison), in average man live less time then woman etc... Note. Criticism of feminism…

Let [1] me [2] show [3] you [4] some [5]... and these are just the first few hits on a search for advertising white men. Want more examples? Just search for them or - the horror - watch some commercials. [1] https://www.nytimes.com/2005/01/28/business/media/men-are-becoming-the… [2] https://www.spiked-online.com/2020/01/08/its-time-to-stop-bashing-whit… [3] https://www.cantechletter.com/2017/07/men-always-idiots-tv-ads/ [4] https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-depressing-depiction-o… [5] https://digiday.com/marketing/copyranter-go-ad-joke-still-white-male-m…